How Self-Reflection Can Improve Your Dating Life

Did you ever take the time out and wondered how sometimes, reflecting on yourself can increase not just your chances in dating but also help contribute towards your personal growth? We often like to be swift at finding the ideal partner but tend to forget about the importance of self reflection. Taking a step back and to look at your own thoughts, feelings and behaviours can vastly simplify our dating experience. Not only does it allow to understand what type of relationship we really want, but it helps us to become the type of partner that draws in healthy, longlasting relationships.

There can be a whole range of attributes you can consider on their self reflection journey, below are the some of them which can certainly be of help to you in an effective way –

1. Relationship Patterns

Finding patterns in your relationship can be very beneficial in understanding how well both of you are doing particularly when there is instability while dating. Looking at past relationships can help unravel some patterns that hold you back you from a deep connection.

Some of the ways, self-reflection can help are –

A) When dating, you might notice that other partners aren’t emotionally available or don’t have long term goals. You learn what these patterns mean, and you can make thoughtful decision basis them.

B) Thinking about your own self can help overcome this and bring someone in who is similar and has the same aspiration for the future that you have.

C) Choosing relationships that meet your real needs will result in better, more fulfilling relationships.

 

2. Emotional Intelligence

Self reflections also furthers emotional intelligence, an important aspect of having any healthy relationship. Emotional intelligence is the ability to know how you’re feeling and feeling for others and then controlling them. Self- reflection allows you to better express your demands and resolve problems as you come to understand your emotional triggers and reactions. Both parties will feel heard and understood and more compassionate and respectful relationship as they have more emotional intelligence.

3. Knowing what truly counts

We all have a basic idea of what we want in a partner, but self reflection will refine your desires into what you actually need. When you do that and explore your core values, life goals and boundaries, you begin to know what is truly meaningful in a relationship for you. This technique allows you to focus on attributes that allow long term compatibility instead of the superficial traits of interest, be that physical or common. Once you understand this, then you can look for relationships which best suits your needs and interests.

4. Suitable Boundaries

Self reflection enables you to set limits that are the very basics for harmony and respect in relationships. Boundaries are there to keep your emotions safe, to protect you and determine what is okay in relationship. Reflecting on yourself may help you to convey your boundaries to your partner and find out what feels right for you. With boundaries, respect is also clear and mutual and both partners are safe and supported.

5. Growing as a Person

Dating is an opportunity to learn about yourself as you do. What happens is, as you start understanding your strengths, weaknesses, and your goals, you become more confident, self aware as a person. All of your romantic and other relationships will be enhanced by this naturally attractive growth. Ultimately self reflection can directly and indirectly change the way you live your dating life, holistically speaking, not just relying on luck to find someone who is compatible with you. To create and sustain healthy fulfillment relationships, its time you find your patterns, know what you, build emotional intelligence, set boundaries and grow. See self reflection as a journey that continues indefinitely and uses it as tool to become the best version of yourself and even for the network of people that you choose to build around you.

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